Stages of Radical Forgiveness:
THE STAGES OF RADICAL FORGIVENESS
All the tools provided in the Radical Forgiveness technology take
us through the following five stages. It is essential that none are
skipped, especially number two. A lot of people try to avoid the
feeling stage and go straight to spiritual interpretation. That is
what we would call doing a ‘spiritual bypass,’ and is counter
productive. We begin with our victim story, recognize and accept
our judgments, feel the feelings and only then proceed to the
spiritual perspective.
1. TELL THE STORY
Having your story heard, witnessed and validated, is the first step
to letting it go. Likewise, the first step in releasing victimhood is to
own it fully. So, in this step, someone willingly and compassionately
listens to you tell your story, and it is honored as your truth in the
moment. [With a worksheet there is no active listener - except yourself].
2. FEEL THE FEELINGS
Your feelings represent your authentic power. Your strength lies in
your vulnerability and your willingness to show up as fully human. You
cannot heal what you don’t feel. When people access their pain, this
is the beginning of their healing.
3. COLLAPSE THE STORY
This is where we make a conscious choice to withdraw the energy
we have given to the story and begin to realize that the story is mostly
our interpretation of events based on our limited perception of reality,
and that since there is more to it than meets the eye it is largely an
illusion.
4. REFRAME THE STORY
Here we specifically replace the ‘illusionary’ story with another story -
the Radical Forgiveness ‘story.’ This one expresses our willingness
to see that what appeared to have happened, far from being a tragedy,
was in fact exactly what we wanted to experience for our soul
growth and was in that sense, absolutely perfect
5. INTEGRATE
It is necessary to integrate that change at the cellular level. That
means integrating it into the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual
bodies so it becomes a part of who you are. Breathwork, walking,
physical work, doing worksheets etc.
